Finding Yourself. For You.

Relationships: the unavoidable, frustrating, confusing, insane, possibly most rewarding and captivating thing we all have to deal with every day no matter how we might try and avoid it. I don't know about you, but everything I do, every choice I've ever had to make, revolves around relationships. You might be building relationships for career gain, personal growth, or because we are stuck with our womb gremlins (no I didn't come up with that myself). So why is it that we are so focused on building relationships around us, that we forget to focus on the relationship with oneself?

I have a few answers to that:

Because we are busy.

Because we have to bring in an income.

Because we need to have a social life.

Because our kids depend on us.

I let this happen recently. Ok, I'll be honest, I have never put the relationship that I have with myself first. I have always valued other people and their opinions more than the opinions I hold for myself. As I continue to find what makes me happy, I have to seriously evaluate all the reasons I have let my hurt and pain lead my life and how I break those habits to find a more well rounded and fulfilling life ahead of me.

One of my biggest struggles is confiding in everyone. I have always been an open book. I love being open about what is going on in my life, but here is the catch, at what cost do I tell everyone everything? As struggles are a daily part of my journey, finding a way to be at peace with my struggles without telling every person I come into contact with, has become a turning point in my life. I have to be in charge of my own happiness. When I leave myself no room to change my mind, create a new path, find my own journey, I create a trap for myself with no room for growth.

Give yourself room to fail. Give yourself room to learn. Give yourself room to love. Take time to renew the relationship you have with yourself. You are the most important person in your life. Own you! Be you! Love you!